Shibari as a Part of BDSM Art

You might have already heard the mysterious word “Shibari”. Today we’re going to explore what activities and practices are hidden behind this term and whether they are for everyone.

What is Shibari?

The word “Shibari”, meaning “tying”, originates from the Japanese language and is used in a BDSM context to refer to rope bondage. In other words, this term goes hand in hand with tying someone up with ropes. In the modern context, it often involves sex with partners in tied-up positions.
The author of the book "Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage" admits that for Japanese people using the ropes for erotic play can be compared to using shackles by Europeans. However, the popularity of rope bondage among Europeans is increasing. Kinky and fetish clubs practice the art of rope bondage in their stage performances and play. 

Why do People Like Shibari?

1. It’s adaptive. Shibari fits all body types and can create a variety of moods. You can practice it even if you’re not flexible enough. Just find what works for you and what doesn’t.
2. It adds freshness to your intimacy. Shibari is not only about using ropes and knots. It’s about speed, tension, and various sensations, which can open a new dimension of pleasure for both of you.
3. It provides a deep emotional connection. Shibari helps you look at your partner’s and your own desires from another point of view. It also builds a sense of trust, since the person in a submissive role needs enough trust to agree to be tied up with ropes. On the other hand, it requires attention and responsibility from the dominant partner who does the tying.
4. It creates new sensations. Many people like the sensations the ropes provide when they contact the skin. Tightness and pressure lead to a better sense of body awareness. For many, such restriction feels arousing and relaxing.
5. It provides an interesting physiological experience. Shibari can create a certain psychological state, ranging from meditative calmness to sexual excitement. It takes the process of surrending control and taking control to a new level. This art also has a therapeutic effect, as it reduces stress and stimulates safe exploration of the body.

How to Get Started with Shibari?

Shibari is a complex art, so before diving into it, you need to do a certain amount of research. Since it involves rope bondage, you should pay special attention to safety. Newbies must start with the basic techniques.

You can always find free courses designed to provide you with insights into Shibari essentials. Alternatively, you can attend a workshop, conducted by experienced practitioners, to learn the basics and advanced techniques. At least, people who are going to practice Shibari should know about nerve compression points around wrists, elbows, and knees, as well as circulation and nerve issues.

Speaking about boundaries and desires with your partner should precede each Shibari session. Playing with ropes should be fun without any dangerous risk. Take your time and think about your personal risks, what you are comfortable with and what you would like to avoid.

For beginners, it’s better to start with cotton ropes, as they feel soft on the skin and don’t require much effort for cleaning. For your first practices, avoid very long ropes as they can tangle and spoil the dynamic of your activity. 

Read a few book about Shibari for a better understanding of this art, for instance "Shibari You Can Use" by Lee Harrington or "The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage" by Midori.

Consider choosing a safe and proper environment for your play. It should be clean and comfortable with enough space to move around.

Remember, Shibari requires time to learn and master. Be patient with yourself and your partner. Don’t strive for perfection from the very first time. Focus on communication. Think about mastering Shibari as an exciting journey.  Start with basic knots and ties. Practice controlling the tension and placement of the ropes to ensure they are not too tight or too loose. Always check whether your partner feels well.

Final Word

When approached with respect and responsibility, Shibari can become an interesting part of your intimate life. This art of rope bondage can enhance your sexual activities, emotional connection with your partner, and provide new sensation and psychological states.

For a more immersive scene, consider buying additional equipment and gear such as mouth gags, spreader bars, blindfolds and harnesses.

Are you wondering how to set up a space for your bondage play? Learn about our tips on creating your sex dungeon.