Bondage Equipment for Beginners: Best Items to Start With

BDSM bondage can bring you a lot of fun and add a significant amount of intrigue and variety to your intimate life. The feeling of being restrained as well as seeing your partner’s wrist and ankles shackled in cuffs can be very arousing. However, where should you start if you’re an absolute beginner? Which BDSM bondage equipment should you select if you plan to use restraints for the first time? Let’s explore the best items to start with.

How to Get Started with Bondage?

Before we provide you a list of bondage equipment for beginners, let’s recap how you should approach BDSM activities for the first time with your partner.

• Establish clear boundaries. Exchange with your partners ideas on what you consider appropriate and what is off-limits. Remember, awesome sex experience is the result of trust and honest communication.
• Think about safe signals and a safe word. You may need them to pause or stop activities if they are uncomfortable or painful.
• Select scenarios that match your expectation. Think what exactly you’d like to get from bondage whether it’s a hot foreplay session or a full-length role-play with a restrained character.

What Bondage Equipment is the Best for Beginners?

If you’re a newbie, it’s better to start with simple accessories and minimal number of BDSM items and then gradually move to more complex bondage as soon as you become experienced and educated about what works for you and what doesn’t.

Here what you can start with:

Leather handcuffs

While metal handcuffs can cut and damage sensitive skin on wrists, leather handcuffs, featuring soft inner side and well-made corners, can provide you with a necessary comfort level both for short foreplay and extended scenes. Leather handcuffs conform to the shape of wrists, reducing the risk of chafing or pinching, which is particularly important for individuals who are new to bondage and just discovering the sensation of restraint.

Leather handcuffs are adjustable, so you can customize their length and the level of tightness around wrists depending on the chosen dynamic and your partner’s limits. This adjustability also ensures that the cuffs are neither too tight nor too loose that helps you achieve the right level of restraint without discomfort. Compared to leather handcuffs, metal cuffs are less forgiving in terms of fit and can be too restrictive causing pain.

Genuine leather also provides unique tactile sensations. You can experience a luxurious feel that metal cuffs usually lack and arousing smell that can bring additional excitement to your experiments in a bedroom.

Wrist Cuffs at Elin Harness: At our website, you can buy leather wrist cuffs with connectors, featuring two-way leather connectors and chain connectors. These accessories help to increase the range of bondage options: you can vary the distance between the restrained wrists or ankles, seeking the best option depending on a chosen position and a level of restrain.

Bed Restraint System

Bed restraint systems work well as warm-up elements, accessories for a role-play scene and a method of punishment. Made of adjustable straps and connectors with lobster clasps, they allow to quickly install the kit beneath the mattress and have fun with your partner.

You can select one of two positions by setting up the straps horizontally and vertically. The process of positioning takes several minutes, and then you have accessible gear that you can use as soon as your activity enters a desired level of hotness. The restraint systems also allow you to conceal them when not in use.

The lobster clasps are designed especially for D-rings, present in cuffs design.  Once you fix your partner with these systems you can control their movements, tease them, experiment with sensory deprivation, use wax, ice play, or slight spanking.

Bed Restraint System at Elin Harness: Our under-mattress bed restraint system featuring compact dimensions when folded is made of strong belt band and is equipped with adjustable straps and 4 lobster clasps to connect hand and ankle cuffs.

Spreader Bar

Spreader bars provide beginners with a controlled and manageable way to experiment with restraint. Available in different lengths, they are adjusted to fit individual comfort levels. The adjustability of these BDSM restraints is what make them beneficial for beginners who want to experiment at a comfortable pace.

Using spreader bars, individuals can try interesting positions that are not possible with standard restraints. Spreader bars help to hold limbs apart, providing more options for intense and heighten sensations. Beginners can experiment with various types of touch and stimulation, and enjoy the open position for better access to intimate areas, especially if they plan to use oral stimulation or sex toys.

Spreader Bars at Elin Harness:  Our spreader bars feature various numbers of attachment points, ranging from three to five. They are made from wooden base and covered with genuine leather, ready to withstand frequent use. Specially designed cuff hooks allow you to comfortably fix your partner's limbs for better control over their pleasure. Apart from classic black color, we also offer blue, burgundy, pink, green, gray and other options.

Recap

If you want to incorporate bondage equipment into your intimate life, the best items you should start with include handcuffs, bed restraint systems and spreader bars. These accessories are easily adjustable, comfortable for skin and allow you to control the dynamic of the game according to the partner’s comfort level. By using these bondage accessories, beginners can discover the feel of being restrained and better understand their personal limits. Starting with this BDSM gear, you can gradually move to more complex options. 

If you’re going to buy cuffs, you may like our tips on best sex positions with handcuffs. In our blog, you can also find advice on choosing your first BDSM accessories.

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