Psychological Aspects of Submission

Psychological Aspects of Submission

Many individuals are interested in role-playing activities, involving elements of dominance and submission. The reason for that isn’t limited to the boredom in everyday life and seeking new emotions. Within BDSM world, the attraction of submission is more complex that it seems at first sight, as it goes hand in hand with human behavior, desires, and relationships. Let's delve into the psychological aspects of why people enjoy being submissive in role-playing scenarios.

Desire for Surrender and Release

The desire for surrender and release is the core of submission. The typical life of each individual is full of stress, responsibility and difficult decisions. Switching to the submissive’s role helps to lessen the burden. When the submissive partners give up control to the dominants, whom they trust, they experience a sense of liberty, as they become free from decision-making process. This surrender functions as catharsis, releasing the submissive emotionally.

Exploration of Fantasies

Role-playing is an awesome chance to explore and set free personal fantasies. When the partners take on the role of the submissive, they can challenge social norms and step outside the comfort zone without the real-world consequences. Submission also provides a possibility to challenge the aspect of control and gender roles, since nothing can stop you when you’re doing it with a trusted partner in a comfortable setting.

Emotional Fulfillment

Some people use the submissive role as a pathway to emotional fulfillment and better self-esteem. By submitting to the partner, individuals have a chance to be accepted, praised and approved. It’s also a great way to experience love and belonging, especially if people lacked these aspects during their childhood. The submissive partner feels satisfied by fulfilling a partner's desires, whether it’s full service or a few household chores. Knowing that they contribute to their partner's pleasure and receiving the praise for that boost their self-worth.


By playing a sub role, people can temporarily escape from their own identities. They can take on the role of any character – a baby, a student, a patient, a criminal, a slave and live an absolutely different life with a certain set of rules and routine that differ from what they typically do in their life. People can become younger, older, slightly ill-behaved or absolutely insane, depending on the role-play scenario. As a form of escapism, the submission allows exploration of individuals and the shedding of taboos with the sense of liberation, which results in new experiences.

High Level of Trust

In BDSM, submission is impossible without a strong foundation of trust to the partner. When you relinquish control, you must feel secure and protected, as the submission demands the deep emotional connection and profound sense of intimacy between two partners, involved in role-playing. Only trusting to each other, people can explore their desires and boundaries in a consensual manner. When they are honest with each other, dominant-submissive relationships can strengthen the bonds and improve intimate life, as people have a better understanding of their preferences and expectations.


There are people, who find the sense of vulnerability quite erotic and arousing. They are turned on when they feel helpless, unable to make decision and impact situations. There are many ways of how the vulnerability can be eroticized, depending on scripts. The submissive may take on the slave role when the dominant partner dictates their activities, routines, and wardrobe choices. Surrendering autonomy can be animalistic, when the submissive adopts animal-like behaviors, wears pet gear, such as masks and harness, and is ready to be disciplined and trained by the dominant. When the subs embrace a childlike persona, regressing to a younger age mentally and emotionally, they expect guidance and protection from the dominant partner, who takes on a caregiver role. Another aspect of erotic vulnerability is experiencing physical pain as a way to please the dominant partner. These activities include various types of impact play – spanking, nipple clamping, ice, fire and electricity play.

Final Words

The aspect of submission is multi-layered and isn’t limited to seeking new impressions and emotions. By taking on submissive roles, people can boost their self-worth, experience the arousal from being vulnerable, escape from their daily problems, and fulfill fantasies. Dominant-submissive activities help to improve relationship and discover each other’s preferences.

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