Best Sex Positions and Accessories for Them

If you miss some hot sparks or novelty in your bed, it’s time to try new sex positions. Fortunately, this is the topic where the sky is the limit. You can start with simple options which don’t require any acrobatic stunts, and then gradually add a challenge if you opt for it.

However, even the most frequently used sex positions can feel like something totally different if combined with BDSM restraint accessories. And restraint accessories don’t necessarily mean something extreme and over-the-top for your possibilities. In this article, we will share tips on the best sex positions and how to enhance them with accessories for more exciting and intense lovemaking.

1. Missionary

The classic missionary position is one of the most elegant and simple positions that is easy to incorporate. For this reason, it’s so frequently used by couples.

How it looks: During the missionary position, the receiving partner lies on their back while the penetrating partner is face down on top. This position provides face-to-face intimacy and deep eye contact, making the connection more emotional during sex. The partners can kiss each other and caress their ears with whispering. Missionary position also allows the giver to control the pace and depth of penetration. This option is ideal for people who like to combine slow, sensual activities with passionate sessions. And if you’re beginners, this position allows getting used to each other.

How to enhance it with BDSM accessories: You can get more control over the receiving partner lying on their back below by shackling their hands in handcuffs and fix them to the headboard or use the connector to restrain their hands above their head.

2. Cowgirl

The cowgirl position is valued for its opportunity to experience both visual and physical strong effects.

How it looks: The cowgirl position is when the penetrating partner lies on their back while the receiving partner straddles them and takes absolute control over their movement. This position allows the receiving partner to set their own rhythm, angle, and depth of penetration, helping them to enjoy power. During a sexual encounter in this position, the penetrating partner typically uses their hands to explore their partner’s body. The receiver can also slide the giver’s thighs up and down, controlling the time of their climax and intensifying their own pleasure. 

How to enhance it with BDSM accessories:  You can spice this position up by using bed restraint straps to fix the hands and ankles of your receiving partner. The straps, also known as under mattress system, help to immobilize the partner and make them more obedient and submissive. The system includes straps and carabiners designed to secure the handcuffs and have more fun.

3. Spooning Position

For many partners, this position may seem slightly lazy, however it can really boost your passion and bring new sensations. Actually, it’s a very intimate position, allowing close body contact. The spooning position is also beneficial for people with back issues.

How it looks:  The spooning position is the position where both partners lie on their sides, with the receiver’s back pressed against the giver’s chest. This close contact allows to be cradled or held, which makes it ideal for slow, sensual lovemaking. The spooning position is gentle, so it’s perfect for deep emotional connection while providing an opportunity to maintain a steady rhythm. The giver can wrap their arms around their partner, bringing a slightly comforting element to the activity.

How to enhance it with BDSM accessories:  To bring an element of novelty and make the position more interesting, you may use cuffs for wrists and ankles with a leather connector to restrain partner’s movement during lovemaking. This allows making your partner more vulnerable and dependent on your pace.

4. Position with the Spreader Bar

This one requires some physical strength; however, it allows you to experience very hot intimate encounter.

How it looks:  The receiving partner lies on their back on the bed with the legs raised high and shackled with ankle cuffs. The giver spreads their legs wide and attach the spreader bar to the cuffs using hooks. Several options of placing the hooks allow selecting the optimal width for their legs. This helps you restrain the partner in a fixed position for further oral, manual stimulation or penetrating sex. In the position with legs spread wide and immobilized, your partner feels more vulnerable and dependent on your rhythm and pace. The spread position also heightens the sensations, making even soft touch more intense and stimulating. You can raise and lower your partner’s legs at the comfortable level, or even place them on your shoulders.

5.  V Position on the Back

This position offers absolute control over a restrained and immobilized partner, providing you with many options of what to do next.

How it looks:  To restrain your partner’s movement, you can use a set of bed restraints, which can be attached to the bed frame or legs with hand and ankle cuffs two-in-one set.  Secure your partner’s wrists with leather belts, spread their legs wide, raise them up and attach to the other pair of belts. If necessary, you may use additional restraint connectors  with adjustable option. Now, you can experiment with the depth and pace of penetration, enjoying full control over your partner’s body and pleasure.

Bonus Tips on Choosing the Best Sex Position for You

There are many things to consider when selecting the best sex position for you. Here’s the quick checklist with questions. Answer them and find the right option based on your needs.

• What stimulation do you like?
• Do you like to be on top or below?
• What kind of penetration is preferable for you? Do you like when it’s deep, or you would like to control and alter it during lovemaking?
• Do you have any mobility issues that can prevent you from specific experiments?
• Would you like to have gentle or a slightly rough sex?
• Would you like to surrender control to your partner to the fullest?
• How long can you stay in a fixed position?
• Is it okay for you to be totally exposed to your partner with legs spread wide?
• Do you prefer eye-contact during lovemaking?
• Would you like to have an opportunity to explore your partner’s body with your hands?

Conclusion

By using various restraint accessories, you can add novelty to any popular sex position and thus experience new emotions. Cuffs, bed restraints, connectors can help you experiment with control and obedience, power and vulnerability bringing new exciting elements to lovemaking.

Please note that any incorporation of BDSM restraints should be negotiated with your partner before using them. You should explain your limits and don’t exceed them. Sex should be comfortable and not painful unless you want it to be like that.  Your partner should have your consent before using cuffs, ropes, spreader bars, belts and other accessories.